A reason to be very merry

We say some phrases almost without engaging our minds in the act, as if the words are a slightly elevated form of sign language. It’s shorthand.

So, when we say “Merry Christmas’ today, it likely will be the 1,000th time in the last month someone has said that to you. It’s a password that shows we share the cultural and religious underpinnings of the event, but just as fundamentally, we’re saying that we hope you are well. Truly well and happy.

For some of us, hearing the words “Merry Christmas” from a loved one – a child you have not seen for years, for example – will mean more than just the words.

The Iraq War – at least our nation’s part in the miserable 10-year excursion – is over.

That means the million Americas who fought in that war can come home this Christmas to the warmth and peace they deserve. The world political maelstrom being what it is, the rest may be momentary. There is always the Afghanistan War which is in its 10th year with no sign of ending. And after that war, who can tell? We seem to run out of reasons for peace much more easily than reasons for war.

But for the moment, this is a morning that thousands of your young neighbors can awake to a good cup of coffee and hugs from children and spouses.

They won’t have to worry about “improvised explosive devices” ending their lives this morning.  No need for body armor to fend off stray sniper bullets.

When they step outside their homes this morning to check the sky for signs of snow, they will encounter the same life as the rest of us do every day, the same perils, and the same aggravations.

They have returned to life as ordinary Americans, although their achievements in Iraq are not ordinary. Whether the price was worth it ultimately, they gave an entire nation a chance at freedom. They could not have done more.

So if no one else says it, we wish all you young soldiers a very “Merry Christmas” this morning.

And many more.

 

 

What a war costs

The battle flags and banners were furled Thursday night in Baghdad. After nine years and 4,500 American soldiers killed in combat, the Iraq War officially ended.

But, of course, it hasn’t really ended.

A war continues as long as the wounds suffered in that war linger. That war will hurt the nation and the soldiers we sent to fight in hidden ways we are only now starting to understand.

For reasons the Pentagon cannot explain, the prodigious improvements in battlefield medicine that helped thousands survive trauma has not worked on soldiers who want to kill themselves.

The new layer of tragic casualties for both active military and veterans is as mysterious as it is staggering. The cost of Iraq seems to have no clear limit.

You will read about them every day in newspaper pages. Others die with little reaction or notice, escept for those who loved them.  Some kill themselves by leaping from bridges or stepping in front of trains; others choose life-destroying conduct as Crest Hill, Ill., veteran Josh Price did. He was convicted of possessing child porn. He said it diverted his mind from the competing urge to kill his wife and two children.

They suffer post-traumatic stress disorders, joblessness and spiritual damage we can only guess.

One U.S. veteran of Iraq and Afghanistan attempts suicide every 80 minutes, according to new study. The Department of Veterans Affairs acknowledges that veterans account for one of every five of the nation’s 30,000 suicides.

“The suicide rate is out of control – it’s epidemic proportions right now,” says Paul Rieckhoff, executive director of the Iraq and Afghanistan Veterans of America. “There are very few programs that are effective, and there’s a serious lack of national awareness.”

Experts say that the problem will only grow as more veterans return home. From 2005 to 2010, one active military member attempted suicide every 36 hours.

If nothing else, the VA is under severe legal pressure to improve its programs. The problem got out of control from bureaucratic indifference and lack of planning for how damaged the returning soldiers would be.

We have paid for what we got in Iraq. If you did not know before how large and heartbreaking the price for Iraq was, now you do.

Out of the darkness…a child’s tragedy, a mom’s triumph

Elyssa Meyers was 16 when she stood at the precipice of existence and eternity.

She was deciding whether the joy in her life — and there was joy — was enough to balance the pain. And there was pain. She had thought of it often. She had thought of suicide often.

The edge of this psychic Grand Canyon is the loneliest place in the world. There is no light. No warmth. No hope.

And then she could see no way out of the darkness. The hidden pain of her life was too much. The cyber bullying by schoolmates. The torments. The malicious gossip. The malevolent juvenile plots. The clinical depression that stalked her since she was a young child. The depression that even medicine couldn’t stop. Life had become a predator to her soul.

It only seemed as though she had defenses against the predator. She did not.

And then she gave up.

She killed herself in her family’s Northfield, Ill., home.

It was Feb. 11, 2004.

The ripples that spread after a child’s death extend eternally in all directions, as waves from a rock tossed into a quiet pool. The loss never goes away, and the grief seems permanent. Such losses are too profound to be clearly understood. The parent who loses a young child to suicide suffers the ultimate violation of human rightness. It changes everything that life was supposed to be.

Joanne Meyers wasn’t sure she could endure the loss and the heartbreak of her daughter’s death. The anger. Or even the guilt.

But if the wound of that day would be eternal, Joanne Meyers promised herself that the lessons of that day must be equally abiding and immutable. She could save herself only by saving others if she could. It was the least she owed to Elyssa. And to herself. There could be no compensation for the loss; but there might be redemption.

So she set about healing herself by healing others. There is virtual certainty that some teenagers are alive on Chicago’s North Shore now because of that healing.

That’s how Elyssa’s Mission got started.

The Perfect Child

Elyssa was the first of Joanne and Alan’s three daughters. Even after the years since Elyssa’s death, Joanne finds comfort in remembering how special her daughter was. She clings to it. She would have been been 23 this spring, likely a college graduate, deeply involved in her own charity work and ready to bloom as a young professional. Elyssa was a buoyant beacon at New Trier Township High.

Indeed, remembering Elyssa is one of the positive side effects of Elyssa’s Mission, an interventionist teaching foundation that places the perils of suicide squarely in front of teens and allows them to see themselves in the reflection. The Mission has counseled more than 10,000 students in 30 school districts along Lake Michigan. This is Joanne’s work. This is her triumph.

But as the years slide past, Elyssa will seem less real to more people. Joanne Meyers doesn’t want her daughter to be just a historical symbol, even in a good cause.

Elyssa Meyers was too special for that.

“She was such a beautiful girl,” her mom says.

“She was incredibly bright and ahead of her time. She was funny, and she made you laugh. She was a thinker. Her writing and poetry were beautiful. It was deep, but very sad. She had this big personality and when she came into a room, she’d want all the attention the room could give. She lit up the room. Her favorite thing in life was for me to fill up the house with her friends and family. She loved being around them. She longed for acceptance.”

“When I grow up, I want to help other people. That is my gift to the world. The way I see it, if I start understanding myself now, I will be able to understand others later. I don’t just want to listen to what people say to me, but feel what they mean. I have the power to make people smile, and I want to use that as much as I can. I know I am only one person, but when I grow up if I only make one person happy, it will make a difference. That is the world’s gift to me. That is real.”

— Elyssa Meyers
from her journal entry “Real”

Sadly, Elyssa’s desire for acceptance made her susceptible to some who were not her friends. “I think that was hard for her,” Joanne says. “I don’t think she knew how to pick kids as friends. It was important to her to be popular. And I think she made bad choices. Over time a lot of bad things happened. She left herself vulnerable. She acted out. There was pain from things that happened early in her life that I don’t think she ever overcame that. She endured a lot.”

Joanne Meyers can flip through her mental rolodex of old experiences with Elyssa, and see plenty of hints. Rearview mirrors see reality so perfectly. Everyone knew she was in trouble, just not how much trouble.

“She walked around with dark clouds above her head,” Joanne said. “There was the cyber bullying, terrible things written on the bathroom wall at school. A boy had stolen her computer password” and used the Internet to torment her.

One student later said he had been paid $10 to tell her that everyone in school hated her. The boy was crying as he admitted what he’d done.

“She struggled with self esteem and got down easily when people were not nice,” said classmate Melissa Malnoti. “As time went on, she just couldn’t take it. She once asked me when we were much younger to attend her funeral. But when people are so young, it’s hard to know what to do or say.”

“Kids can be terrible people,” said Zack Novak, another classmate. “It just started to snowball. Maybe I didn’t take it seriously enough. Obviously, now that she’s gone.”

Against that backdrop, a fragile soul stumbled, fell and could not rise again.

“She would say she didn’t understand the sadness,” mom said. “And it just very hard to understand that going through adolescence there is this fine line when a child has to develop coping mechanisms and find help. I thought she was getting better. She was taking medication. But she had this hopelessness, and the drugs weren’t helping.”

It was not until later that Joanne Meyers learned of the complex peer assaults on her daughter. “She didn’t think there was help. I didn’t know the depth of her pain. She did tell some of her peers. I only found out later.”

Yes, there was no help.

It was the greatest sadness a mother can feel. “In those last few months we were closer than we had ever been,” mom said. “We were friends, but …”

That realization of what she had not known left Joanne Meyers thunderstruck. Even if you sense a child’s terrible dread of alienation, how do you break through to help? Where do you turn? Who listens? Who is prepared to act?

“In those days you just didn’t talk much about mental health,” she said. “Especially here on the North Shore. I think this has been a place where everybody wants to stick to their own business. Elyssa was not so much ‘troubled’ as she was predisposed to depression. Her mind just didn’t work in a healthy way. But you didn’t know what to do. I knew something was wrong. Back then talking about mental illness was very hard. Living in this environment, there are secrets. People are so wrapped up in their own lives that they don’t want to get involved in other people’s lives. But we have to reach out to others. Have to.”

Joanne Meyers and brother-in-law Ken felt the same pull at the same time. To do something.

And they volunteered with Links-North Shore Youth Health Center to … to what?

Yes, that was the problem. To help another child? Another mother. Yes, of course. Anything to stop another painful trip like Elyssa had traveled with no one to grab her hand and pull her back. “I knew I had to do something,” mom said.

But the Links offered so many programs to address so many issues that suicide prevention was not a particular focus. In comparison, suicide prevention was the only thing that compelled Joanne and Ken.

And so they asked family, friends and Elyssa’s true high school friends for help. The community foundation that sprang forth from their common loss now raises money to administer the SOS (Signs of Suicide) program, the acknowledged gold standard in suicide prevention programs for teens.

The SOS program was created by Screening for Mental Health, Inc., and includes a video presentation, followed by an anonymous checklist survey that students take to determine whether they should talk about their feelings with an adult or health care professional. The personal story of Elyssa is central to the message.

Teens see themselves and their lives in this presentation. The signals of approaching suicide attempts are eerily similar, and SOS presenters are often shocked how many teens volunteer that they are feeling many of the same heartaches and depression that gripped Elyssa. “You can hear a pin drop in the room when teens are watching this,” Joanne says.

SOS works because there always are signs. It’s just that there hasn’t always been anyone to react to those signs.

“I believe we create our own path. Faith in God will help guide us, but it is I who lifts my foot and takes another step. We take what we want from life and make it what we choose. Our choices determine our life. One of the hardest concepts is that once we do something, we can’t take it back. No matter what we say or do afterward, what’s done is done. Everything is so permanent. With that knowledge my outlook on life changes. It all comes down to one simple thing: I don’t want to mess up.”

— Elyssa Meyers
from her journal entry “Real”

The program is intense and is meant to be. Ken Meyers found early that teens didn’t want a safe explanation of the truth. They wanted to know everything. They wanted to know exactly how Elyssa died. He hesitated at first. But now he tells them. She hanged herself, he says directly. There is always a deep, sad silence in the room at that news.

The program teaches — insists, really — that intervention is not a risk for a friend. It’s absolutely necessary for friends to accept that reaching out to help is the only true measure of that friendship and care. To this point, the program has allowed thousands of teens to identify themselves as at-risk and get adult help.

You belong to everyone who cares about you. And they belong to you. You cannot withhold that care. You must always act. That is the only safety net that catches a child ready to plunge. The SOS message is emphatic and consistent.

Joanne wishes with all her heart that Elyssa could have heard that message seven springs ago as she stood on the edge of her emotional Grand Canyon and saw nothing but darkness in the pit.

Wishes it with all her heart.

 

Where the memory of Emmett Till has gone

“If you can’t speak out against this kind of thing, a crime that’s so unjust,
“Your eyes are filled with dead men’s dirt, your mind is filled with dust.”
Your arms and legs they must be in shackles and chains, and your
blood it must refuse to flow,
“For you let this human race fall down so God-awful low!”

–          “The Death of Emmett Till” by Bob Dylan

We haven’t forgotten Emmett Till entirely. He still haunts our conscience when we are of a mind to remember that should never be forgotten.

But he is drifting away from us every day, which might not be the worst indignity he ever suffered, for at least he has peace wherever his soul is. Still, he is a wan ghost for us now, consumed by time and the forgetfulness that time imposes.

And reneging on her promise to find away to honor Till’s legacy and life was not the greatest crime Carolyn Towns committed in desecrating the remains in her care at Burr Oaks Cemetery in suburban Chicago. For those crimes, she has been sentenced to 12 years in prison.

She not only was guilty of greedy, criminal indifference, she gouged a hole in the heart of the region’s African-American community whose forebears were interred there.

But her crime against the child who became the nearly literal face of racial intolerance in America and roused us to shame was just as real. We could not turn away from his lynching murder on Aug. 25, 1955, in Mississippi because his mother showed us that face and what had been done to him.

And so, at long last, we came to our senses as a nation and began the path to civil rights and away from murderous intolerance. We remain on that path and likely will as long as the instinct to do right remains with us.

There had been plans to build a museum and memorial mausoleum in his honor at Burr Oaks. But the memorial, as with the memory of him, was whisked away in time.

Now his grave remains untouched in the middle of the Burr Oak cemetery, covered by a flat copper plate. His casket was sent to the Smithsonian.

But Emmett Till belongs to Illinois more than Mississippi where, oddly enough, his memory is more recognized in official remembrances.

If there is money to be raised for good causes and the will to remember, we must find a way to build that museum.

It need not be a sumptuous palace. Only a place of repose and dignity for a lost child who received neither in his death.

We owe it to him.

We owe it to ourselves.

 

 

 

He was a man worth remembering

The island where John Peter Fardy died is a miserable heap of slag not worth a drop of an honest man’s blood.

Ask any Marine.

They left lots of blood on that miserable excuse for an island.

But that was 66 years ago, too long to hold a grudge against a nation or a small slice of it as Okinawa was. But it is not too long ago to forget.

Fardy was a man worth remembering. His death on May 7, 1945, was heroic even by the standards that separate Marines from most mortals.

He was a kid. He was 22 when he traded his life for the lives of all his friends in Company C, 1st Battalion, 1st Marines. In a flick of a second, he chose. The Japanese hand grenade came sailing at the feet of his eight-man squad. He was their leader. He chose. He dived on it. He knew it would kill him. It did.

So Fardy came home figuratively this week. His body did not come home to Illinois from that miserable island until four years after his death, and then his grave at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery in Worth Township showed no sign of who he was. No sign that he was a Medal of Honor winner.

That oversight was corrected this week with a rededicated headstone that told local citizens that Marine Cpl. John Peter Fardy had once been one of them.  His Leo High fellow alumni did the honors. Bagpipers played the Irish Anthem for him. Veterans of World War II rose to salute.

You might think that this was merely sentimental old business of a kind too removed from life now to mean much. You could not be more wrong about that.

Fardy should remind us how war is often as unexpected in its heroisms as it is deliberate in its indifference. Fardy’s death was not only testimony to courage; it also symbolizes the sad burden of fate. We must care. War does not.

His choice on the day of his death was almost forgotten by history and, sadly, had no effect on World War II. In a better world, gallantry should produce profound good. It did, in one way. Consider the hundreds of Company C grandchildren and their grandchildren to come who never would have existed without Fardy’s final act as a human. .

But two weeks later, the battle that took 200,000 Japanese lives on that miserable rock and 12,000 Marine lives, too, was rendered moot.

Two mushroom clouds, not Okinawa’s staggering human price, ended the war.

That’s why we must remember John Peter. We remember not only who he was but who he might have been had he lived.

If we forget him, we might forget all the others, too. We might forget the awful waste that all war imposes.

But we won’t.

Some people keep their word

Jody Polka and her father found out in 2007 that there actually are “death panels.” We call them health insurance companies.

When Cyril Strezo died from cancer, he actually died of a bureaucratic runaround that denied him chemotherapy that might have saved his life. Jody Polka will never know the answer to that question but she promised him, and herself,  to never let that happen in Illinois again.

Jody Polka is a person of true grit. She’s no movie script.

If she told insurance companies they could never do this again, she meant it. So for four years, she lobbied and testified and twisted arms as forcefully as she could. With state Rep. Mary Flowers (D-Chicago) at her side to fight for the legislation, the people of Illinois now have the right to quick, impartial review of medical treatment denial. Gov. Pat Quinn signed the legislation last month.

Why did this have to happen this way?

Perhaps you didn’t know it, but before Jody Polka’s crusade, there was no law that required insurance companies to show anyone why they refused to pay for medicine that a doctor prescribed. Even if the patient would die without the medicine. The insurer always decided if its denial was fair, and you can guess how often the insurer ruled itself guilty of a fatal medical error.

As they say in the “Godfather” movies, “it’s just business.”

By the time the insurer reconsidered its denial, Strezo’s esophageal cancer had spread, and he was doomed. The insurer changed its mind about the chemotherapy after the SouthtownStar wrote about the case. We’re sure the newfound conscience was coincidental. At any rate, the insurer saved itself money by deciding not to invest in saving Strezo.

If that does not make you nearly as furious as it did Polka, then you need to check your heart for a beat.

So now there is a “process”, a 48-hour review for urgent cases that affords an external, unbiased review.

As for the human cost of her battle, Polka has no reservations. “There was this huge feeling of calm and comfort. I think it came from knowing that no one will ever have to go through the feeling of being terrified and waiting and knowing that it’s the difference between the person you love living or being left to die.”

We’re glad there are people like Jody Polka and equally as glad there are people like Mary Flowers to give Jody’s voice the power it deserved.

You and we are better off for them today. Unlike some insurace companies, they keep their promises.

A food pyramid for those with big bones

The federal government’s Food Guide Pyramid of Total Indifference had been around for 30 years until this summer when it was changed to the MyPlate System of Total Indifference.

We made up the “Total Indifference” part of that. It’s sardonic irony. The mood just struck us.

Anyway, we noticed the national sea swell of change right away. We are very observant of these sorts of fundamental shifts.

The dietary designation change occurred because, well, we’re not quite sure, but we’re positive it’s going to be very good for us because it will lead us all to eat more balanced, more healthful meals just like its predecessor did.

The U.S. Department of Agriculture’s “MyPlate” visual shows an aerial view of a color-coded plate (natch) with cubby holes for protein, vegetables, grains, fruits and a sidebar hole for dairy. We found last week that they usually mean “pork chops” when they say protein.

The old Pyramid system confused us. It must have, because after 30 years of following its precepts, we are a nation of very big-boned people. Most of our big bones are surrounded by big slabs of fat.

We think the Pyramid didn’t work (why didn’t they try Tetrahedrons or Parallelograms?) because we cannot withstand advertising’s call to supersize everything that winds up in our colons.

How can the federal government’s advice possibly stand up to two pounds of transfat-soaked French fries with a triple-pattied half-pounder and a soft drink with enough liquid volume to make a horse choke?

We aren’t an accidentally fat country. We do it out of habit. We’re trained to do it. We’re fat.

But that’s OK. We’ve just got big bones.

How Eric Smoot ran into life

 

When Eric Smoot was 15, he literally found his stride.

But when Eric Smoot was a homeless 10 year old, he did not know what the stride was supposed to do for him, though it had to be better than the life that seemed to be his dubious partner. The streets surely would swallow him up. He would be lost as thousands of other kids on the fringe are lost.

His mom was a drug addict who hid out nights with Eric in an Evanston beauty salon where she worked. She would pretend to close up shop and then sneak back with Eric to hide from the cold.

But she was caught by child protection watchdogs. Before they arrived to take Eric, mom sent him to Gary, Ind., for a “better life” with an older sister. But he soon would have to leave there, too. More drugs.

That’s where Judy Jemison found him. She and her husband already had three kids and little left over for basic necessities. But Eric was her son’s best friend at Horace Mann High in Gary, and she made the roast beef stretch enough to feed everyone. She would be his permanent lifetime godmother. They squeezed everyone tighter into the little house. At last he was home.

Deep enough love can conquer even privation.

But then …

Yes, his story always turns. This is not a tale of relentless urban perdition and a lost kid with nothing but faith in God and a bright mind. There was more.

If you know Wilmette businessman and fitness guru Eric Smoot now, even his friends will say there stands a man who knows where he’s going, a man with joy in his soul.

He was a runner who found the right path and took it, literally one, long perfect stride at a time, to a better life.

By the time he stopped running for mentor Roosevelt Pulliam at Mann High, he had won the Indiana State high school mile championship three straight years. He ran into the state’s prep athlete Hall of Fame. Purdue snapped him up with a scholarship and he ran to be an All-America. He ran a 4:01 mile once, and there aren’t many people on the entire planet who can do that. “Mr. Pulliam taught me how to be a man. What it means to act like a man,” he says.

He ran to a degree, and then to a business career.

So he ran from a life that might have trapped him. He’s not running away from anything now. He reached out for the life he wanted, and grabbed it.

Once his business partnership, Redefined Fitness, had taken hold, he figured it was time to return an act of faith. He went back to Gary 10 years ago, back to Judy Jemison, who had worked at the Ark shelter for homeless, battered women and their children.

As she often did, Jemison showed him how to share.

He would give children at the Ark and Rainbow transition shelters the Christmas they would never have without him. So he asked customers and friends in Wilmette if they’d like to help. The Christmas week haul requires a multi-vehicle caravan and helper elves of all sizes to deliver $25,000 worth of presents. He fulfills every last item on dozens of kids’ wish lists. There was cash to help moms get back on their feet.

Every year since, the caravan has hit the Santa road. “That’s about $250,000 worth of presents in 10 years,” he says. “Not bad.” Every year he expands how many shelters he adopts.

His arrival signals nearly hysterical joy for those who don’t know he is coming. There are tears, sobs of joy really. There are deep, loving hugs and children happier than anyone ever remembers them being.

“This is for mom,” he’ll say to siblings as he sneaks money to their mom. “You kids got to take care of her because you only have one mom.”

That particularly rings true now. Smoot’s mom has been free of drugs for 15 years and he dotes on her. He is a man of open, unambiguous affections.

Smoot’s devotion to paying forward makes him sheepish sometimes because he knows it is he who gets the richest payback from those trips to Gary. He is giving himself the best Christmas present of all. “People in those shelters can lose everything, including their sense of dignity,” he says. “As for me, I’ve been blessed. Everything I went though made me who I am. I would not give up any of that.”

“People who know me will know how it makes me happy, joyful really, to see people being happy. It fulfills my soul. That’s what I do with the shelters. It’s how I work every day. Just make people happy every day. There aren’t many people who get to say that.”

His skill as a high-tech cross trainer and physical therapist has launched him to the top of the North Shore fitness pyramid. He’s trained many of the New Trier High girls who won the state cross country title. But he fixes bad backs for middle-age sedentaries with equal enthusiasm.

But he’s all but given up the running that took him to a new life. “I have two great kids with my partner Jennifer Miller. Eric is 2 and Maya who is a baby. Most of my running is chasing them around. But they are why I work so hard.”

Still, when you’ve been as gifted a runner as Smoot was, yielding to age and physics is a grudge match. “Trying to run a 4:00 mile would be too hard now,” he says with a laugh. “But I sort of like the idea of turning 40 which I will this year and maybe running a sub five-minute mile.”

Yes, it appeals to him. Smoot has decided to live a large, joyful life with large, joyful goals. That’s hardly a surprise. And even Smoot admits he has barely hit his stride.

 

 

 

 

The witness to Nuremberg

Every life has the “moment.” If you are unlucky, you will not recognize it has occurred until it is too late to construct your life around the moment’s significance and meaning.  Even more unlucky, you might never know it was your true moment to shine and be lifted up. It comes. And then it goes as a phantom.

Peter Less had more than a moment.  He had that one year in his life.

But Peter Less is a lucky man. Even he says so. Indeed, he’s had many good years.

He is 91. He is healthy and fit, both of mind and body.

And when he sat at the plain wooden desk with the large microphone bolted at its exact middle 66 years ago, he knew exactly where he was, and what it meant. There would be no mistake and no argument.

He was only 25 then but he was in the middle of history that he was about to shape with his skill and mind. He knew what he was doing. People would know this history.

He would translate a trial. He would listen to the men sitting across from him and tell their story just as they told it. They would answer his questions. German into English. English into German. Though there would be evidence – vast piles of documents and human testimony  –  the words would always be his. Forever. The official record was his record.

And, thus, as Peter Less sat across the plain wooden desk and looked into the cool, blue eyes of the man who had  built the machine of state that murdered his entire family, all he had to do was still his soul, and be as cool as those blue eyes were.

The world had been drenched in its own blood for a decade. Seventy million were dead. There had to be an end to it.

The entire world was watching the Nuremberg Trial.

A man at home

The two-story, three-bedroom brick house on Old Glenview Road in Wilmette is prim, though today the inside is not as neat as Peter Less usually prefers. Thick, tall foliage guards the front door from easy street view.

Inside, the dining room table is heaped with papers from his legal practice in downtown Chicago. Custody cases. Deadbeat dads, Adoptions. Depositions. Reports. Pleadings from the banal to the boisterous.  He’s always had affection for being on the right side of fairness and honesty. He’s been a lawyer for 60 years.

The desks nearby his soft couch are gorged with magazines, mostly French and German language news publications. “I like to know what’s going on,” he says.

This is a house where a man of letters lives. A precise man. He lives alone. “ ‘Batching’ it,” he says with a smile that curves softly into a hint of wishful melancholy.

He’s lived here for decades although he’s been alone for only two of those years. His dearest friend, partner and wife, Meta,  died two years ago. The loss leaves a silent emptiness that had been filled with joy for 64 years. Her portrait reveals a graceful, beautiful creature. She was a good match for his intellectual intensity.

He will never see 5-foot-10 or 150 pounds. But he mows his own yard and drives. He is wiry and unexpectedly strong the way Russell terriers are. “I am fit and healthy,” he says with some astonishment and pride. “Everything works. I can still do pushups.”

He and Meta had three daughters who were raised in this house – Yvonne, Jeannette and Jacqueline. They visit regularly and phone often to make sure he is secure.

Near him are all the inanimate objects that fill his life with remembrance and love. Meta’s pastels and watercolor art are arrayed around the room at eye level. Mostly small landscapes, they are warm and beautiful. Like her, he almost says without needing the words.

His accent is clearly, carefully phrased but not obvious. His perfectly accented English is tinged with a dash of German and French inflection. The French is not a Parisian varietal. It’s the more cool Swiss vintage.

The law practice is coming to an end soon. “Winding down” he says. He does not want his 91 years to make anyone think he is giving less than his exceptional mind should offer. But 91 is just a number to him, not a statement of human fitness.

“I have muddled through,” he says with a smile.

He has lived what anyone would call a full, meaningful life which seems a cliché until you meet a person who actually has lived that life.

It is full even without his “moment.” You would easily think him exceptional, which he is. You would have no reason to think him famous.

But he is that, as well.

He had the “moment,” and he did not waste it.

The coming storm

History of the largest kind was staring down on Peter Less’ life. The two forces would come crashing together in 1938.

He was 17 and the scion of a prosperous family in Königsberg , the 700-year-old German capital of Prussia. His father, Siegfried, was an acclaimed lawyer in the city of 2.2 million, and his mother and aunt ran the family’s chic department store downtown. His grandmother was close at hand, as was his sister.

They were “intellectuals.” Dad had been among the last there to produce his doctoral dissertation in Latin.

But Adolf Hitler had claimed the country’s soul, and the Third Reich sent waves of hate and fear in all directions. Even Peter Less felt the unease of it, though he could not foretell that his beloved city would not exist within eight years. Soviet artillery would crush his hometown, and Stalin would confiscate the broken city as a prize of war. It is called Kaliningrad now. It is a Russian city. Wholly owned and labeled, and virtually no one of German descent even lives there.

“I knew then there was no future in Germany,” he says. A German passport would allow any citizen a free pass into Switzerland, and from that embarkation point, the family could go anywhere, even America.  “It may seem as though I was so smart thinking all of this, but I wasn’t really. Just a dumb kid,” he says. “Maybe I was just intuitive. But every day Hitler was squeezing and squeezing the lifeblood out of the country. Nazis didn’t like people who thought for themselves. They didn’t like smart people. They liked people who got news from the radio and repeated it and mouthed it. Nazis liked people who just went along. My family knew enough to keep their mouths shut to survive.”

Less virtually begged his family to join him in Geneva, but his father dreaded having to start over at middle age, and besides, who could take a blowhard like Hitler seriously? “Father couldn’t figure out how to make a living there,” Less said. “A physician can go anywhere because the human body is the same everywhere. But a lawyer doesn’t know anything once they cross the boundary to another country. My father just didn’t think he could start over with school. Plus, they all thought the thing with Hitler would end. By spring the Social Democrats would be back in power … I told him if he was right, I’d be back. But if I was right, he and the family had to come.”

“I just had a feeling,” Less says now, “that something wasn’t right.”

So Less set about living in Geneva as a refugee alien. He was required to inhabit a “camp” but it was a Swiss camp which is to say it was more like camping. It was a mostly benign accommodation while Switzerland  figured out what to do with him and others like him.  He learned to be a barber. He learned to be a cook, a baker, a butcher. He learned French. He would be invited into the University of Geneva as a refugee, and later the École d’Interprètes to study the high art and science of linguistic interpretation. Switzerland turned out to be his friend.

His father sent a modest stipend to see him through. They wrote often.

He soon found Meta who worked for the Red Cross. He was deeply, permanently smitten. “I chased her for years,” he announces with a beaming smile. They were wed.

But, of course, the “Hitler thing” did not end.

By spring of 1939, World War II would start. Less was trapped in Switzerland.

He never saw his family again.

The trial of the century

Hyperbole deadens distinction. The nature of exaggeration diminishes all that falls outside its direct light. Thus, the murder trial of O.J. Simpson was the Trial of the Century, just as the Scopes Monkey Trial of Clarence Darrow fame had been. The prosecution of Bruno Richard Hauptmann for the Lindbergh baby abduction had been the Trial of the Century. The Sacco and Vanzetti “Red Menace” prosecution a decade earlier had the same place on the mantle.

Every few decades, a court case captures enough attention to win that description.

But there had never been anything quite so universal in its reach, or as historically traumatic, as the Nuremberg War Criminals Trial. Less knew how big it was.

This was not merely a trial to hold World War II’s strangely mediocre arch villains accountable for the incomprehensible pain of their rule; it also was civilization putting itself on trial. Measuring itself. Monstrous evil must be held accountable or else law, justice and the idea of human advancement have no meaning. Then the war had no deeper resonance beyond winners and losers. Then there was only pain and blood, and nothing more.

Thus the western Allies designed the International Military Tribunal to try the architects of Nazism for the crime of making bloody, relentless war on the entire planet. The right of a nation to indulge in bloodlust would be judged. “We knew the world was watching,” Less says.

The trial’s existence was a close call. The Soviets and England’s Winston Churchill had pressured President Roosevelt to issue arrest orders for the worst 2,000 of them, line them up and execute them. But Roosevelt prevailed.

Justice required the form of law to be observed. FDR would not budge and neither would Harry Truman when combat ended.

In fact, there was not just one Nuremberg Trial. There were 10, each aimed at a particular subspecies of the Nazi structure. One for doctors who tortured. One for military murderers. One for industrialists. One for those who specialized in murdering hostages. One for the Einsatzgruppen, the mobile murder squads who roamed occupied countries dealing death; another for judges who froze in Hitler’s glare and empowered the Final Solution for the Jews. The list of venal killers and willing accomplices seemed staggering. Nazism was a multi-headed, gruesome beast.

An entire culture, even its view of justice, had been subverted. The cinematic “Judgment at Nuremberg” is, in fact, the more nuanced morality tale of the Judicial Trial.

The trials started in the fall of 1945 and lasted until 1949. Without the art of live, simultaneous translation into multiple languages, the trials could have lasted more than a decade.

Interpreters suddenly were the hottest commodity in Europe. American soldiers came to Less’ class at the École d’Interprètes, the Rockefeller-funded department in Geneva that trained simultaneous interpreters, just as the trial’s massive logistics were being organized.

Among prosecutors, defense attorneys, researchers, interrogators, linguists, filmmakers, sound engineers, technicians, security forces, military managers and support forces, there would be a team of 600 to conduct the cases.

The talent scouts interviewed the top interpreters at the school and took three. It was the only such rigorous academy of its kind in existence. One of the selected three was Less. “They told us we’d be on a plane tomorrow. ‘You’re going to Nuremberg,’ ” he says.

Meta stayed behind for a few months. Nuremberg took precedence over their honeymoon.

 A city of rubble

The Allies picked Nuremberg because it had been the spiritual center of Hitler’s most outlandish and extravagant public displays, the center ring of the Nazi circus. There he had paraded all the strutting grandeur of Nazi pomp for the world’s newsreel cameras. At the 1935 massed rally, Hitler ordered the legislature to convene at Nuremberg to pass the anti-Semitic Nuremberg Laws that stole German citizenship from all Jews. The Final Solution had begun.

It was the perfect symbolical stage on which to restate the meaning of justice.

And after Allied artillery and building-to-building combat leveled all but seven percent of Nuremberg, a few hotels were spared and the Hall of Justice was all but untouched. A single-file street, Fürtherstrasse 22, wound through pillars of rubble to the Hall of Justice and its adjoining prison.

After a few days of indoctrination, Less stepped through the front doors of Courtroom 600 on the second floor on Nov. 20, 1945.  “It was like a courtroom from a movie,” Less recalls. It would have fit perfectly inside any Raymond Chandler script, and indeed murder trials are still held there. “The judges sat on a raised throne symbolically. There were rows for defendants and attorneys and translators. A big area for the press.”

Less had been warned to stay clear of journalists. Military police whisked him every night to a country villa billet where he lived, and then shuttled him back to court in the morning. “We were told the press would pay our weight in gold to get the verdict first,” he remembers. “Being court martialed by the Americas for that would not be fun.”

On his first day, Less translated the 24,000-word indictment into German as it was read. Though 30 or so interpreters would be arrayed throughout the trials, the Major War Criminal Trial was largely Less’ domain. There were 22 defendants. His “shift” was 90 minutes in the morning and 90 minutes in the afternoon. The physical and mental concentration required for three hours was exhausting.

Because the microphone was bolted to the middle of the interpreters’ table, Less had to sit at the very edge of his chair and lean far over the flat expanse to speak clearly into the device. All the while, his eyes had to scan left and right to find the faces of the two he was interpreting.

This would be the center of his working existence for a year.

In hindsight, American Supreme Justice Robert Jackson, the chief Allied prosecutor, and Reichsmarshall Hermann Goering were the natural stars of the trial. Jackson was careful, thorough and, at least in court, cool. Goering was the strutting self-proclaimed Teutonic war god. They were ice and flame.

For weeks they would battle with words, fighting over every definition and recollection and idea. Every phrase would be dissected for flaws. They would battle with Peter Less’ words.

When Goering listened, it was not to Jackson. It was to Peter Less.

When Jackson listened, it was not to Goering. It was to Peter Less.

“Goering was fat and arrogant,” Less recalled. “But smart. He was not a decent person. But he was powerful because people follow power and money. ”

History has translated Goering into something of a buffoon. But he had been a World War I ace, was Hitler’s de facto No. 2 and helped invent the secret police that made Hitler’s power impregnable. He was both a plunderer by preference and malicious social architect by opportunity.  His signature on a document could mean death for a dozen, or for millions.

The Reich was as much Goering’s handiwork as anyone else’s, and the Gestapo’s power had flourished under his guidance. It was the same Gestapo that would murder all of Less’ family.

Less knew who all the defendants were. But he especially knew who Goering was. Goering was speaking for Hitler, Heinrich Himmler and Joseph Goebbels, all of whom had committed suicide months earlier. He was the last towering figure of the truncated 1,000-year empire. Goering wore fancy uniforms and yellow hunting boots. He had the cool, blue eyes.

“We sat as close as you and I are sitting,” Less said, measuring out about three or four feet. “Yes, it was emotional. But if you get emotionally involved, you cannot function. If they lie, you cannot get upset and shout ‘LIAR, LIAR, LIAR’! It’s not professional. You just have to boil inside. Yes, I boiled inside. They were consummate liars. In their view, nothing they had done was wrong, and they felt they were being punished because they lost the war. But I was a spokesman. I could not even note with facial expression that I did not believe the words …”

Jackson and Goering were a suitable fighting roosters. Both brilliant and dedicated and adamant. “Jackson was a fabulous attorney,” Less said. “Personally a very warm, honest man, a sharp man. But I think Europe was kind of unfathomable, a strange culture to him. I don’t think he was at home in the world. But he was a great American judge.”

“As for Goering, I believe he was honest,” Less says. “He actually believed what he was saying. He had a one-track mind.”

Jackson kept Less close at hand during the Major War Criminals Trial. He was the one interpreter who could not only repeat the words faithfully, he knew the soul of Germany. Less breakfasted with Jackson’s top aide, Gen. Telford Taylor, most mornings at the Grand Hotel. Less was always the youngest man at the table.

As Less notes, interpreting is not about the dictionary. A great interpreter translates a culture. “You put what one knows inside their head inside the head of someone else. All languages have idiom. You are translating culture as much as words.”

Later Jackson would reward Less by interceding with the State Department to extend Less’ immigration visa. “I had worked for years to get it, and it was going to run out. And I could not let that happen,” Less said. “I was going to swim the Atlantic Ocean to reach America if that’s what it took.”

As some of the most infamous men in the world paraded through their testimony, Less was struck by how ordinary they were. Some were simply killers. Many were functionaries who saw themselves as bookkeepers. “On the street, they would look like anybody else,” Less recalls. “They were not great people. But it was hard to read some minds, especially if they had a very small mind. Some were impossibly stupid. Others were intelligent.”

Hitler’s deputy Rudolph Hess, for example:  “He was nuts. A very unstable mental case.”

Foreign Minister Wilhelm von Ribbentrop: “Spoke perfect English. Seemed to be very sharp as a person.”

There remains only one lingering though significant debate about the Trial. Was it fair? The laws under which it was conducted were largely cobbled together after the war by judges from the Allied countries.

“I think it was very just,” Less says. “Defendants got all the rights that that in America are granted to all defendants. This was not revenge. We didn’t hang them because they lost the war. We hung them because they committed crimes. It was one of the fairest trials I had ever heard of. We (the Allies) paid for the best German lawyers. They were brilliant. They were just on the wrong side of things.”

The trial reinforced two of Less’ principles: How the world is indeed a good place but it would be better without people who manipulate the world for their own desires; and how little religion has saved humanity from the pit. “We kill each other because my God is better than your God,” he says sadly.

As for the trial, it was a good moment for civilization. “We were just. It’s a glory to be just, rather than revengeful.”

The Final Act

The eyewitnesses are almost all gone now. There might be two or three of the interpreters scattered around the world, but no others who heard the entire testimony and saw the faces of those who testified are alive now. They were the last witnesses.

Because of his unique, intimate, and dominant role, Less stands alone.

For his part, he remains something of a revered icon among translators. He was honored in 2006 by his worldwide colleagues though he has done no interpreting since 1947.  The honor conceded that Less’ one year at the Nuremberg table was a lifetime achievement likely never to be repeated by anyone.

As a new American – a status that even now makes him glow with pride –  he had to make a living. The best he could do was teach a Berlitz language class for GI’s returning to Germany to serve in the occupation. The man who interpreted Hermann Goering taught GIs how to ask in German, “Where’s the best beer?” and “Do you know where the pretty girls are?”

Of those on trial that first year in Nuremberg, 11 were condemned to die, three were acquitted; the rest earned long prison terms.

Less would hold his breath all that day.

Goering escaped the gallows’ that stood 30 yards from the courtroom on the day before the executions by swallowing a cyanide pill that had been secreted to him. Cyanide provokes a violent, agonizing death. He died in blue silk pajamas.

In their turn in the early hours of Oct. 16, 1946, the prisoners were brought one by one to the cavernous, glaringly lighted gym. As they dangled from the rope, their bodies were brought down, laid on stretchers and carried out. Army blankets covered the faces. The next condemned men entered through the door with soldiers at his elbows.

Ribbentrop went first. Then Field Marshall Wilhelm Keitel; Ernst Kaltenbrunner, head of the Nazis’ security police; Alfred Rosenberg, arch-priest of Nazi culture in foreign lands; Hans Frank, overlord of  Poland; Wilhem Frank, Nazi minister of the interior; Fritz Sauckel who organized slave labor; Colonel General Alfred Jodl; and Julius Streicher, who enforced the anti-Semitism of the Reich.

Some yelled epithets from the gallows platform when their time came, some saluted the Fuehrer; some called out to the God they had found in prison; others hailed the dead troops they had led to massacres or mourned Germany.

The last to ascend the 13 steps to the wooden eight-foot square platform was Arthur Seyss-Inquart, who handed Austria to Hitler, murdered hostages, and sent thousands to death camps. He had been a joyous killer.

The gallows floor opened. He plummeted from sight. By 2:45 a.m., he was dead.

And so, after 70 million had perished before them, World War II ended.

Within days of the executions, Peter and Meta were on a plane bound for America and eventually the little brick house on Old Glenview Road.

There they both would learn the lesson of exceptional lives.

For some few, there is not one great moment in life. There are many.

The minor sins of 1976

If you were 20 in 1976, a lot of things looked like good ideas at the time that didn’t seem quite as substantial as the years past.

Leisure suits, for example. Or mutton chop sideburns. Or campus streaking.

We were high on the American Revolution motif in those days, and we were rolling with “Rocky.” KC and the Sunshine Band demanded we all shake, shake, shake our booty.

For Brian Carney and three Joliet pals, stealing the Bicentennial and American flags that flew over Joliet Community College seemed like a swell jolt to the status quo, and as close to victimless crime as they could contemplate.

So take it they did.  The return of the artifacts lacked most of the drama of the original foray.

It had been quite the military operation in 1976. The nefarious Paul Revere wannabes cloaked themselves in dark clothing, blackened their faces and rowed furiously in a metal rowboat up the nearby creek to the hill where the flagpoles stood.

OK, so it wasn’t exactly the Boston Tea Party, but you strike a blow for revolutionary solidarity with whatever opportunities present themselves.

For 35 years, they had kept the flags as spoils of war. But now, as maturity and advancing age are wont to do, it seemed a better idea not to keep the pilfered items.

So Carney and his pals agreed to return the flags to their rightful place this week. For its part, the administration at the college took the newfound urge to repentance in good spirit.

Carney said he’s never been proud of getting away with his crime, but the Spirit of ’76 gang  enjoyed sharing the mementos for 35 years — shipping them back and forth across the country every six or seven years.

The flags were in great shape for their delivery to communications director Kelly Rohder, who said the college library will find display space for them.

Everybody feels better. Everybody’s feeling more mature. It appears that an attack of conscience can counteract youthful indiscretion.

We’re all happy.

On the other hand, there remains no way to make up for leisure suits.